演講者：Nora McInerny

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　　We don't 'move on' from grief. We move forward with it

　　我們不背棄痛苦前進(jìn)，而是帶著痛苦前進(jìn)

　　演講正文來源：

　　https://www.ted.com/talks/nora_mcinerny_we_don_t_move_on_from_grief_we_move_forward_with_it

　　Part 1 – Miserable experience

　　【Transcript】

　　2014 was a big year for me. Do you ever have that, just like a big year, like a banner year? For me it went like this: October 3, I lost my second pregnancy. And then October 8, my dad died of cancer. And then on November 25, my husband Aaron died after three years with stage-four glioblastoma which is just a fancy word for brain cancer.

• a banner year 特別好的一年（這里面有諷刺意味）

• pregnancy 懷孕

• glioblastoma 惡性腦膠質(zhì)瘤

• a fancy word 時(shí)髦的語言，花言巧語

　　【悲慘圖片】

　　Par 2 – Reactions

　　【Transcript】

　　I’ve made it a career to talk about death and loss, nut just my own, because it’s pretty easy to recap, but the losses and tragedies that other people have experienced…I’ve written some very uplifting books, host a very uplifting podcast, I started a little non-profit. I’m just trying to do what I can to make more people comfortable with the uncomfortable, and grief is so uncomfortable. It’s so uncomfortable, especially if it’s someone else’s grief… It’s just a series of small groups, where men, women, gay, straight, married, partnered can talk about their dead person, and say the things that the other people in their lives aren’t ready or willing to hear yet. Huge range of conversations.

• recap 概括，回顧

• losses and tragedies 損失和悲劇

• uplifting 振奮人心的

• non-profit 非營(yíng)利的

• make more people comfortable with the uncomfortable 讓人們接受不舒服的東西

• grief 悲傷

• huge range of 大fanwei

　　【討論圖片】

　　Part 3 – Reflection

　　【Transcript】

　　“Did you remember what people say to you” “Oh yeah” “Which ones did you hate the most?” I got a lot of comments, lot of answers, people say a lot of things, but two rose to the top pretty quickly. “Moving on.” … But by any measure, life is really, really good, but I haven’t “moved on” and I hate that phrase so much, and I understand why other people do. Because what it says, is that Aaron’s life and death are just moments that I can leave behind me ~ and that I probably should. And when I talk about Aaron I slip so easily into the present tense and I’ve always thought that made me weird. And then I noticed that everybody does it. And it’s not because we are in denial or because we’re forgetful, it’s because the people we love, who we’ve lost are still so present for us…He’s present in my marriage to Matthew, because Aaron’s life and love and death made me the person that Matthew wanted to marry. So I’ve not moved on from Aaron, I’ve moved forward with him.

• rose to the top 登頂

• move on 放下過去往前看

• moved forward with 一起前行

• leave behind 拋下，離開

• in denial 否認(rèn)，拒絕

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　　后續(xù)內(nèi)容請(qǐng)?jiān)L問：

　　https://www.ted.com/talks/nora_mcinerny_we_don_t_move_on_from_grief_we_move_forward_with_it

　　無論我們生活中發(fā)生什么樣的不幸，我們都不應(yīng)該完全忘卻這些痛苦。應(yīng)該勇敢地接受它們，因?yàn)檎沁@些成就了我們自己。

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